After getting together with Ann (张晓) I have not been sending any updates here to the blog, leaving some people wondering whether that is a good sign or a bad sign of how things are going.
It is a good sign. In short, we have been chatting a lot every day, sending each other letters, I have visited her in Beijing twice (three weeks in June and one week now in October), I have spent much time with her and her parents, she is planning to visit Finland in January and in summer 2014 we are planning to get married in China and then move to live together in Finland. She is very sweet and sensitive and thoughtful woman and we value and respect many things in each other.
So a lot of good things have happened, our love relationship is progressing well and we have had very happy moments together. These things have kept me busy and the free moments I have for writing I have mostly chosen to write directly with her instead of updating this blog.
The fact that Ann has so much time available for our relationship is in stark contrast to the sad and silent times I was increasingly experiencing with Jinlin during the last year of our relationship. I can see now, that writing the blog was for me often a way to keep up the commitment and feeling to the relationship in the days and weeks when Jinlin could not be or would not be in contact with me. Like I wrote in August 2012 in To wear a robe, to write a blog: "The main reason I am writing a blog is to reflect and focus on my thoughts, emotions and identity regarding my life and relationship to Jinlin." Still I did not start to write the blog until being together with her for 10 months, mainly because in the earlier times of our relationship she had enough time for me for us to reflect on these things together and directly.
So... things are good, hopefully continue to keep getting even better and I might still send later some updates here about my adventure :-) 我 也 继续 学习 中文 , 现在 知道 更 多 单字 :-)
It is a good sign. In short, we have been chatting a lot every day, sending each other letters, I have visited her in Beijing twice (three weeks in June and one week now in October), I have spent much time with her and her parents, she is planning to visit Finland in January and in summer 2014 we are planning to get married in China and then move to live together in Finland. She is very sweet and sensitive and thoughtful woman and we value and respect many things in each other.
So a lot of good things have happened, our love relationship is progressing well and we have had very happy moments together. These things have kept me busy and the free moments I have for writing I have mostly chosen to write directly with her instead of updating this blog.
The fact that Ann has so much time available for our relationship is in stark contrast to the sad and silent times I was increasingly experiencing with Jinlin during the last year of our relationship. I can see now, that writing the blog was for me often a way to keep up the commitment and feeling to the relationship in the days and weeks when Jinlin could not be or would not be in contact with me. Like I wrote in August 2012 in To wear a robe, to write a blog: "The main reason I am writing a blog is to reflect and focus on my thoughts, emotions and identity regarding my life and relationship to Jinlin." Still I did not start to write the blog until being together with her for 10 months, mainly because in the earlier times of our relationship she had enough time for me for us to reflect on these things together and directly.
So... things are good, hopefully continue to keep getting even better and I might still send later some updates here about my adventure :-) 我 也 继续 学习 中文 , 现在 知道 更 多 单字 :-)
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| Me and Ann in Beijing in July |
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